When I graduated high school I moved out of my parent's house almost immediately. I only stayed the couple of days longer in order to do baptisms for the dead for the last time in that ward. Actually I think it the last time I was able to do them. I loved my parents but they taught us to be independent and ready to leave the nest when it was time.
I loved where I moved. I had a wonderful first roommate We became instant friends. I met wonderful people in my singles ward and I made the decision that I was going to go to church every Sunday. At that point it wasn't an option not to. I had decided in high school that I would be faithful.
I was still going out with my friend from high school in a long distance relationship where we shared many long phone calls. Over the course of the summer I met the few guys that were still unmarried and older than some of my brothers. I met others that just moved in. I wanted to be a normal freshman and date a variety of people. The guy I was dating allowed me to go on dates with other people just as long as they knew "I had a missionary". I went on a few of dates. One turned out to propose after 2 dates and I shunned him out of my life after that.
After that experience I decided I was going to screen my dates better. I knew of Endrit but I didn't pay attention to him because I knew he had not gone to the temple therefore never went on a mission. I thought that I would only marry a person that was a returned missionary. I knew that it wasn't a deal breaker, but that was what I had been taught since I could remember. I was also taught that I should marry a good man no matter his missionary status so I decided that it didn't matter enough for me not to become friends with him. We went to a ward softball game together and we have been inseparable ever since.
I had lost my summer job and told Endrit that I needed one to pay rent for the semester. He was able to find me a job in the Chemistry department which was in the same building that he worked in. We saw each other multiple times every day. It has been the best job I have ever had in my adult life. It was nice to know that Endrit cared that much about me even though I was dating another person.
I broke it off with my boyfriend a week before he left on his mission. We were drifting apart and I saw that I was much more interested in Endrit than him. I didn't want him to think I was going to be waiting. I went to see him the Sunday before he left and so that he would not think about marrying me while he should be fully thinking about the wonderful people of Russia, I told him that it was my intent to not wait for him and that he should know that I would be married before he came home. He knew that Endrit and I were now in a relationship because I told him we decided it was exclusive that Saturday. He tried to discourage me from dating him because of the same reasons why I had reservations to start. No mission, foreign, etc. I told him that I had a right to date whoever I chose and he agreed. We parted ways and Endrit came in the forefront.
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