Chapter 3 - Getting to Know You

We started dating in late August 2004. I was 18 (almost 19) at the time and he was 21. It was the first time in my life that I hadn't known a person for years before we started dating exclusively. That isn't saying much because of the limited experiences of dating that I had. All I knew is that I found Endrit intriguing and he fit into the box I had made for my perfect man. Or perhaps my box morphed a bit because of my most recent life experiences and growth. It didn't take too long to get to know the basics of each other by staying up until the wee hours of the morning. This is the first time that I started to know about the drastic cultural differences between us.

He grew up with different ideals when it comes to the timeline of marriage. He was actually waiting until graduate school to even think of getting married. That was at that time 2 years away. This is why I was the first girl that he had ever dated. In Albania, 2 years of dating before marriage is somewhat short. He wasn't even thinking about the prospect of marriage when I had pretty much decided that we would probably get married the next summer. I was just waiting for the proposal. I had been praying from day one if I should continue in this relationship because my ultimate goal was to get married. Those prayers turned into prayers of if Endrit specifically was going to be my future husband. The answer was apparent to me to be yes before I ever turned 19 in November.

I think that I was wanting a quick dating to marriage because I was scared that my parents put in their mission papers. I also think that Endrit was thinking that we would probably have a 2 year dating before marriage because of the same reason. He was waiting to have my parents come home.

Graduate School

I knew that graduate school was going to be hard. I knew that it was going to test my patience. I knew that it wouldn't necessarily be the funnest time for Endrit that would also need to include weekends. In the beginning it was "some" weekends Now it is every weekend. There is nothing wrong with this per se, but it is starting to burst my bubble. It used to be that I could get out of town at least once a month. Graduate school started and it is seeming less and less frequent. Endrit feels a need to prove himself to his boss by being there every second of every day. I have to tell Endrit that we will take off a Friday in December to go to St. George and he almost has a fit and asks why not just have a day trip...to St. George. I am sorry but it is over 4 hours each way. Day trip idea, not going to happen.

I have been bugging him about a trip to Albania ever since we have gotten married. I want to go there and at this point I am in NEED of an extended vacation away from home. I know that we woudn't have to pay a dime for anything because his family would be too excited for us to be able to be there. So, if you see Endrit, try to make him take me on a vacation. He needs one to get some rest from work and I need a distraction from school. At this point I am going off of 3 week breaks between the semesters until graduation. I guess I am in a poor me mood and I just want to get out of "life" for a while.

In an Aquaintence's Blog

"I am not the cause of your sadness. When I am upset, it's easy to blame others. However, the true cause of my feelings is with in me. For example imagine yourself as a glass of water. Now, imagine past negative experiences as sediment at the bottom of your glass. Next, think of others as spoons. When one stirs, the sediment clouds your water. It may appear that the spoon caused the water to cloud--but if there were no sediment, the water would remain clear no matter what. The key, then, is to identify our sediment, recoginize when being stired and actively work to remove it." ~Ashley

I just really liked this analogy and thought that I would share.

Chapter 2 - Summer 2004

When I graduated high school I moved out of my parent's house almost immediately. I only stayed the couple of days longer in order to do baptisms for the dead for the last time in that ward. Actually I think it the last time I was able to do them. I loved my parents but they taught us to be independent and ready to leave the nest when it was time.

I loved where I moved. I had a wonderful first roommate We became instant friends. I met wonderful people in my singles ward and I made the decision that I was going to go to church every Sunday. At that point it wasn't an option not to. I had decided in high school that I would be faithful.

I was still going out with my friend from high school in a long distance relationship where we shared many long phone calls. Over the course of the summer I met the few guys that were still unmarried and older than some of my brothers. I met others that just moved in. I wanted to be a normal freshman and date a variety of people. The guy I was dating allowed me to go on dates with other people just as long as they knew "I had a missionary". I went on a few of dates. One turned out to propose after 2 dates and I shunned him out of my life after that.

After that experience I decided I was going to screen my dates better. I knew of Endrit but I didn't pay attention to him because I knew he had not gone to the temple therefore never went on a mission. I thought that I would only marry a person that was a returned missionary. I knew that it wasn't a deal breaker, but that was what I had been taught since I could remember. I was also taught that I should marry a good man no matter his missionary status so I decided that it didn't matter enough for me not to become friends with him. We went to a ward softball game together and we have been inseparable ever since.

I had lost my summer job and told Endrit that I needed one to pay rent for the semester. He was able to find me a job in the Chemistry department which was in the same building that he worked in. We saw each other multiple times every day. It has been the best job I have ever had in my adult life. It was nice to know that Endrit cared that much about me even though I was dating another person.

I broke it off with my boyfriend a week before he left on his mission. We were drifting apart and I saw that I was much more interested in Endrit than him. I didn't want him to think I was going to be waiting. I went to see him the Sunday before he left and so that he would not think about marrying me while he should be fully thinking about the wonderful people of Russia, I told him that it was my intent to not wait for him and that he should know that I would be married before he came home. He knew that Endrit and I were now in a relationship because I told him we decided it was exclusive that Saturday. He tried to discourage me from dating him because of the same reasons why I had reservations to start. No mission, foreign, etc. I told him that I had a right to date whoever I chose and he agreed. We parted ways and Endrit came in the forefront.

Chapter 1- High School

You may be wondering why I start my engagement/marriage story with high school since I never met my husband until I went away to University. It was such an important stepping stone in my life, especially with one unique man that I have the utmost respect for even to this day. It all starts with seminary and Brother Allred. I believe it was my sophomore year of high school which would put it in the year 2002. I was struggling with the LDS church, a lot. I knew that I wanted to believe. I only had good friends that were on the seminary council and would go to the pre-seminary invitationals before school. Even with those friends that were so strong, I found myself not understanding why I was unable to do certain things that were seemingly small like drinking coffee. Why should a religion restrict my eating and drinking habits? I really didn't understand at all but to appease my parents I consistently stayed enrolled in Seminary.


Poor Brother Allred was so kind and patient while I was horrible. I would bring my cup of cappuchino to class with him fully knowing what it was I was drinking but to my dismay I wouldn't get into trouble just as long as I had it downed before the bell. I don't know why, but since he was accommodating, I always had it done before the beginning of class. I did everything I could think of to get kicked out of his class for at least a day. I had been able to do this in each of my other classes up to that point and one after that. I even had a bishop tell me that I should study seminary at home instead of going to the early morning seminary because of my protests regarding the teacher. I mean I constantly did everything to not go to seminary on a consistent basis.

He never kicked me out and he was able to teach me. He had me be a sceptic of the church where another friend of mine had to find answers to my questions from the Book of Mormon. He knew what he needed to do to get some of the teachings in my head.


I think about this wonderful man on a regular basis and tried to write a letter to him but he had moved. I was really sad when I received the letter back. Many after school hours were spent talking about gospel principles with him patiently answering my sometimes off the wall questions. That is the time when my little testimony seed was planted.

I didn't know it at the time, but when I moved to little, tiny Williams, Arizona I ended up being the only LDS girl in the entire high school. 2 out of 5 of the LDS boys were my cousins. One was too young and the other 2 already had interests in other girls so I went completely dateless the entire year which was probably good for me. There was this one boy at Grand Canyon, but that was too far away.

Williams was probably the best thing that could have happened to me after the tutelage of Brother Allred. I was forced to either believe and gain a real testimony, or make up my mind that it wasn't for me. I was able to see my options and I chose to learn more and be a good examples to the girls in my ward that were still in Jr. High and struggling to understand the supposed restrictions that the Gospel places upon the young people. It was there that my testimony grew and I knew that I would not falter.

We ended up moving back to Weston before the end of that school year. It was nice to move back to where I had friends and a good opportunity to go to prom. I missed Williams and the great testimony that I gained from the wonderful people there. I had to hold strong to the testimony that I gained there because I was back in the place with 90% LDS people. Surprisingly enough it is easier to be good LDS in a non LDS place than in a predominately LDS place.

This was the first time that I realised that I wanted to be married in the temple for time and all eternity. That I was prepared to commit my life to the LDS church and prepare for the time when I was going to be married in the temple.

Happy Birthday Father in Law

Yesterday was my FIL's birthday. It was interesting because he turned 54 and he was born in 54. I thought that this was interesting because my Dad will have the same type of birthday this year as well. Well FIL told me that there was another interesting point with this birthday. As of now, he has been married for half of his life.

That got me to thinking about how old I will be when I am married half of my life. I was kind of stunned when I figured out that I will only be 39. Endrit will be 44. It was an interesting realization that I will be so young when that time comes.

I don't know why I wanted to share that but it was some random thing that I found out.

Getting Slightly Frustrated

Let me first say that I am overly excited that I am doing my project this week rather than one of the last weeks of class. I don't think that I could handle much of a wait longer than the one that I have already had for this project to get over with. My outline wasn't up to par for my instructor and I had to re submit a revised outline. I will be working overtime to get the paper done but I think that it will be a good paper nonetheless. I will be recruiting my group-mates to help me once I have put it in concise order so that it doesn't really look like I pasted 4 papers together into one. It will definitely be interesting but I think it is totally doable.

It is the start of the 10th week of the semester. That means that there are only 7 weeks left until I go into finals week. I am excited about that. I register for next semester's classes on 11/11. I love being a senior because I get the early registration dates. Lucky me! I hope that next semester is better than this one but I am not hopeful because I will still be in boring and practically meaningless education classes. I will definitely be happy when I am done with this class I am working on.

Who knew that the 5th year of school could wear you out so fast?

I don't know why

I don't know why my emotions switch almost weekly if not more about how my graduation date is so close and then it is so far away. Right now it is more in the so close category because I am scurrying to get my application for student teaching into the department. I only need to do a couple more things on it with signatures and stuff and I am handing it in!
I got my last set of transcripts today.
I got my last letter of recommendation today.
I have my statement of professional intent most of the way done.
I have written my affidavit on why I have no job right now therefore no letter from a job.
I have the application mostly filled out minus the signatures that need a witness.
I have my major sign off sheet completed it just needs to be signed by an adviser.
I need to get my official PRAXIS scores and I am done.
With all of these things completed or extremely close to completion, at least my student teaching is seeming to come up so fast. I am excited that if I only didn't have to get a licence I would only have 4 classes to take next semester. I have 2 semesters (one which is a summer) and then I am teaching in schools and preparing to have that blissful day of graduation. By the way, any family that is reading this, I do expect a party in my honor the day I graduate :).
It has been a busy day trying to get everything done. I can't believe that I have been in school long enough to finally be at this stage. It is getting really exciting for Endrit and I, if not a bit nerve wracking.

Little loose ends update

There are a few topics that I have started and then I got busy and I didn't resolve those topics and so I am going to just have a little bit of an update.

I think I just burst a vein in my elbow. It no longer hurts and there is a huge bruise. I know that I didn't hit it on anything but I know that I put a heavy bag on my shoulder in the same position my arm had to be in for it to hurt really bad.

I am about 2 weeks or so away from putting my application in for my admission into the teaching education program. I am getting really excited to get into the classrooms. If I really like it and I get a job offer I may just teach until Endrit is done with school so that we can have a good savings account. There are many things that could change that option but it is still on the table if I want to do things that way. I talked to my academic adviser and she told me that it was really good that I am getting my application in early. I thought that she might call me an over achiever and not to put it in until after this semester but she wants it ASAP. I feel good that I am on top of things

I am almost half way done with the scuba diving book and workbook in order for me to be prepared to get into the dive tank. I am getting a little bit nervous about it, but I am sure that it will be fun and great and I will have all the knowledge that I need in order to be prepared when that time comes.

I like that I chose to be the first group to give the presentation and hand in our paper. I wanted to be able to get it done and relax for the rest of the semester. Luckily this presentation is on Education. It makes it nicer to study when I am actually interested in the subject. I will be done with that on the 30th. Lucky me.

I have started to write my story, but I am now getting stage fright. I am not that great of a writer and my story deserves to have it's true meaning brought out. There are some parts that I feel is really important but at the same time is a bit TMI for the average reader of this blog. Who knows. I will write an edited one and then keep another one for posterity I guess. Embarass people after I die I guess. I should have the first enstalment "High School" proofread and posted by the end of the week.

Endrit is working on being the first author of a publication. He has only ever been second or more because he wasn't the primary author. Now he will be. It is a nice step for him. I am excited to say that my husband is a writer and a chemist and the smartest person that I consistantly associate with. He is an awesome provider for our family.

It is getting really cold, but I love the smell of decomposing leaves. It is the best smell in the entire world. Even better than rain. The smell of wet, fallen leaves is what I am talking about. Earth's recycling. I love it but it is also sad because that means my least favorite season, winter, is just around the corner.

I am still waiting for the last PRAXIS score to come in but I am feeling more confident about it all the time. It should be here by this time next week. It may take longer than that but I took the test at a not so peak time.

I think that is about all for now. I am just going to school and for the most part enjoying it.

Facebook Chat

I think that I introduced Isaac to Facebook chat. I was bored in my night class and he was online si I chatted with him for a bit. I was able to chat with him for a little while again today and it was nice because he is unable to call me because of connection difficulties. It is nice that I can still talk to him for a bit over the internet. I know that he chats with Mom and Heidi as well.

A great blog

I was on another blog that I frequent and I learned of a wonderful woman who was writing about her whirlwind marriage and divorce and it intregued me. It has nothing to do with anything in my life, but at the same time it is good to be able to read a story to see what you should be watching for and the things that you could prevent even yourself from doing to preserve a marriage.
http://10019musings.blogspot.com/2008/02/part-i-beginning.html
That is the first chapter of her story. It took me 2 days to read it. It isn't long, I just don't have too much time. She is a very great writer.
I think that I will start to write about how Endrit and I were able to sucessfuly navigate the time of engagement and marriage without parents present, newlyweds with the added year long illness that complicated it and the struggles that life still bring our way in going to school. I have wanted to do this, because time fades memory. There is going to be other added things down the road, but I think that we have a pretty good story.

Acute Brusitis

I had to go to the doctor today because my elbow has been hurting like crazy since last night. They think that I may have acute bursitis. I think that it is better than having the cartilage pop in my elbow. If it doesn't get better by next Wednesday it will be x-rays and cortisone shots. Lucky me. I just hope the prescription works and it doesn't come to that.

Taking it slow.

Endrit and I were talking on the way home from my parent's house and we were talking about how it was funny that my parents are starting to talk about Dexter as a grandchild...if only in jest. Real kids came up and Endrit said sorry that we have to wait so long and I asked him a question of if either of us are really sorry about it. The discussion that we had afterwards was worth the question. We have known that marrying eachother wasn't necessarily the easiest thing in the world because of the drastically different cultures that we grew up in. We have a slight language barrier (which no one seems to notice but it IS there). There are many of the key changes in life that our cultures couldn't be further apart in the differences. 99% of the little things we meet eye to eye but big things...not so much. We have had to work out these differences and ultimately say it isn't up to us. We will prepare mentally now for anything and life will happen when it is supposed to happen.

My answer and his answer to that question is that we are not sorry. We are glad that we are able to agree on the little things and know who we are married to. We are able to give up our will in major areas to the will of Heavenly Father where it is supposed to be. Faith in knowing that our day will come keeps both of us happy. My graduation will be here before I know it.

The best part about this is that it has pertained to all major life decisions.
There was a disagreement as to the date of the wedding that we sorted out not of our own will. There was slight disagreement in where to go for graduate school.
There is a disagreement on when to have children.
There is probably going to be disagreement in where we will be moving after we are both done with school. I favor the Arizona, New Mexico area where Endrit favors the Oregon, Washington area.

The best part about it is that we don't rely on only our opinions. We say that we will do what we feel is right no matter where it takes us.

If we were to get married and get pregnant 6 months in and me postpone school like I wanted to do when we were married 6 months, I wouldn't have the profound growth that I have encountered over the last 3 years. I know who I am married to and he knows me and we still like eachother. We have learned to put our complete faith in the Lord where it should be. Without the growth that has come from continuing my education and waiting to add more life changes I don't know where I would be.

I guess that the major thing that Endrit and I realised that night was that we have had to learn who eachother really is. We still don't fully understand the extent of our cultural differences and we are learning more about each other every day. If I had children and needed to care for them Endrit and I would have less time to learn about each other.

When people come from the same cultural background it, in my mind, can be easier to come eye to eye on major life events and they know that they will nurture more relationships at the same time and it is definately do-able.

I think that it took Endrit and I really talking about if we are really sad about waiting for a specific life change to realize our blessings that come with the dicisions that we have made together. I hope that people don't read this and I am condoning postponement of major life events, but the huge message is that of making a marriage a marriage between you, your spouse and the Lord. If there are 3 people within the marriage things will be as good as they can be.

To Do List

Today I had a couple of things that I needed to accomplish. I had to drive to 2500 S. State street for fingerprinting in order for me to apply for the teacher education program. I was watching the news and they were talking about early voting that people could do. I looked at the locations and it was being held at 2001 S. State street I thought why not. It means that I don't have to wait in the long lines in SLC for hours just to vote. I get to where I get my fingerprints and I was told I forgot some paperwork so I go and vote. I love voting...I don't necessarily think that the people on the ballot are all that great but it is my right and duty to vote and I take that to heart.

I went back to my apartment got my paperwork and got fingerprinted. I have always seen Endrit going in for fingerprinting but now it was my turn and it was a little bit weird. Only 2 fingers were rejected and had to get re-done. Productive is how I would describe this day.

I ROCKED!!

I had to be at the testing center this morning at 8:30. It wasn't too bad. Endrit gave me a blessing last night. I was told that I would do well on the exam and I know that helped me relax. You get 2 out of 3 of your scores at the end of the exam because the computer automatically grades you. I was doing the post test survey and I just wanted to see my scores. I was a little nervous because I didn't know how the test was going to be graded. All I knew is that I needed to get above a 173 in each area. I am happy with the 2 scores that I did get today.

184 in Reading

186 in Mathematics

That is a scientist for you, better at math than reading. I thought that it was going to be different than that, but I am happy.

What to do for Sinus Problems

I have been having sinus problems on and off for years. MRI, CT scan and all that junk. I went in for my sinus infection and my doctor told me to try a Neti Pot. It is nasal irrigation and cleaning. It has been interesting to start to use this. If you really want to know more about it, google it. It is kind of gross if you are not used to it. I guess that since you now know what I am doing you can see how desperate I am to ;get rid of some of my sinus problems.

And Then I Woke Up...

I am not amused. I don't like walking to Church in the snow.

NOOOO!!!

I have nothing else to say...

LONG Day

I got up a good 30 minutes before I usually do. That little time to sleep in is invaluble. I drove to Plymouth to go and get all of the snorkel gear from Rick and stayed there for a little while to chat with Rick and get a few little lessons of the things that I need to do until Thanksgiving to prep for the classes. Drove back in time to pick up Endrit for lunch and rent a movie then went home to eat the rest of the meatloaf I cooked for dinner last night. I love leftovers. I went to school less than 20 minutes after getting home and I just finished my lab. It has been a long day. I am tired, but I will be going to the pool for at least an hour to do my homework from Rick. I am sure that goggle face is worth the outcome of getting this practice in.

It is FREEZING!!! I need to get my coat out, not just a sweater. I can't believe how cold it is already. I want it to remain summer. I don't like to be all bundled and not able to go to outdoor swimming pools. My feet freeze, sweat when I am in a building and then ice over when I have to leave a building. I really hope that I don't get sick too much this winter. I need to go and get my flu shot but they are so darn expensive. Smith's said it was $25. I am glad that Endrit refuses to get it. I don't blame him. I need to call the health center and get their cost. I hope that it is a little lower.

That is about it. I am tired, excited and freezing. Lots of fun.

In the Process of Learning

School has decided what it usually decides the few days before the break that I look forward to with the start of any semester. I have papers due and midterms that are worth 1/6th of my grade. I end up skipping other classes to study for exams and I just get a little worn out by the end. Praxis is in 5 days. I really need to study for it. It won't be too bad, but studying is necessary. After that it is fingerprinting and finishing up a group project. No real break, but I am grateful that I don't have to go to classes. It is all good. I needed a little bit of a break from trying my hardest to remember names, places and actions without getting confused with other people. It isn't all that easy. I think my brain is full. It can't hold any more. It won't allow it. That is all.

Looking Through Pictures

I was looking through some of the pictures that people have pertified for me in the past and I found my most favoritest pictures that a nice girl named Marie made for me. Most of you know that Endrit and I are nerds and we enjoy it. I just gave her pictures and a chemical formula...actually it is an acid-base indicator methylene blue...and she made the wonderful picture on the top of the blog. I just wanted to share where it came from.

Fall Break T-4 days

Fall break starts on Saturday. It will be a nice break from things for a while, but at the same time I have to take Praxis 1 and finish up some of the assignments that I need to do before I get back to school. It sucks, but that is life. Once I have taken the Praxis, I will be 90% ready to hand in my admissions packet. I still need to get a couple of letters of recommendations but I will be sending out a reminder email fot that. Professors can be really busy when it is midterm.

I can't believe that this semester is half over; excited but stunned. It has gone by so fast. Too bad I don't have a summer to look foreward to. It is just school from here on out.

Other than school nothing much has changed. It is the same old boring life of a university student.

Conference and Scuba Diving

This weekend was fun. I went to watch one of Rick's classes scuba dive. While I was there, I learned that around Thanksgiving time, I will be a certified or on the road to be a certified scuba diver. I have wanted to take this class from Rick for a long time but with school I haven't had the time to just stay in Idaho for a while. I will have to do most of the stuff homestudy, but that means that I will have toe to do it! I am excited about it. Friday and Saturday after Thanksgiving, I will most likely be in the pool doing practice dives. I am not sure when Rick was going to do open water dives but when that happens, I will go. Hopefully Endrit and I will be able to go on a vacation at some time where we will be able to utilize this skill.

Conference was really good as well. I love our dear prophet. He spoke amny things that I needed to hear. There was a great talk about celestial marriage and the ways in which people choose which marriage to take upon themselves, whether celestial or a lesser one with no promise after death. It makes me really glad that Endrit and I were able to be married in the temple and that there is a way to "upgrade" marriages if a lesser choice was made to begin with. This was a good talk for me because I am really hoping that Endrit's parents will be able to go to the temple and be sealed to eachother and to Endrit. It would be a very interesting ceremony. I am hoping that it happens within a year from now. I really want Endrit to talk to them about it, but there is a whole respect your elders thing that he thinks bars him from trying to convince them that it is a good thing. Who knows. It is a nice thing sometimes to give people a little push towards progression.

I had a good weekend. I am ready for school this week. It isn't fun, but I am ready for it to be here. If it is here, it will be over faster and I can get onto the next semester. It is always good to be busy.

Utes Football

Last nights game was AWESOME! Endrit and I decided to leave as Oregon scored a touchdown and the extra point which made it 28:20 Oregon. There was only 1:42 left in the game so we thought that it was over because we would have to get a touchdown and the 2 pt conversion to get it into overtime. We walk out of the stadium and everyone is screaming. They got the touchdown. Then a flag was thrown...personal foul against both teams re do the try for a conversion. They actually got the 2 pt. conversion! I didn't want to stay for overtime and there was not much left in the game. Oregon turned the ball over with only 1 possession and the ball is on the Utah 45. Endrit and I were running back to the stadium. They got a little closer and wasted time until 1 second was left. Tied at 28:28 they get out awesome kicker out there and he gets the game winning field goal. It was late, but definitely worth it.

Trials

I am in the midst of a few trials in my life. I was talking to a friend online and she gave me advice that was so overpowering and inspiring that I have to tell anyone who cares to read this about it.

When I have heard talks about trials and how trials sculpt people into becoming better most of the time people used the analogy of clay. I was always fine with this analogy, but in the midst of a trial things are much harder than the pliable clay that is used in the usual analogy. My friend wrote me today saying,

"You know, trials seem so big and huge and hard when you're going through them. It hurts so much to be sculpted. Some people use clay for this particular analogy. I see the Lord sculpting in granite. It's really hard to see what someone is trying to make when they start in on a block of granite, and it seems so much more destructive. Sometimes you're looking at it, and you think you see what's being made, just to have the Sculptor take out an essential part of it, which leaves you reeling. You don't understand why He took off that particular chunk, because you can't see what He has in mind. But later, as you see more and more of the piece, you understand why it had to be that way."

It was the perfect thing that could have been said to me at this time in my life. School has not been enjoyable for an extended period of time which is the first time I can remeber this happening since starting University. This is only the tip of the iceburg to my trial, but it is something that I know will help me to be a much better person in the long run. Sometimes I wish that trials would come one at a time and last for an hour and be done with it.

If any of you remember 2 years ago I was sick and going through at that time the worst trial in my life. I am greatful for the lessons in life that my trials have taught me. I would be nieve without the experiances. There is a hope that trials at some point will end if not now, at the second coming. I hope to keep these in mind as I try to see the benifits of current trials.

Little Blessings

There are only a few times that I will consider little blessings. I wouldn't wish a sinus infection on anyone, but I am not saddened by the fact that one of my teachers has one and it kind of put off my midterm for another 2 days. I think that is sad that she had to be sick to have this be nice for me, but I am happy that I have another couple of days to study is really nice. Don't think I am evil :)