Something I have been asked about...a lot

From people that don't really know me all that well it is interesting the questions that they end up asking. I say that it is because of the culture that I live in with all of the big life changing moments seeming to come faster to people. I find someone in class that has a similar wedding ring as me and she is sitting right next to me. It is a break for the class so I decided to be social and tell her that her ring is pretty. It didn't have a wedding band so I thought that I could ask if she was married. We exchanged compliments on how we got our rings and so on, but when I asked how long she had been married she told me and asked me. I am overly excited about our 3rd anniversary coming up so I told her. I think that she assumed that I was going back to school after a while and she asked me if I had children. Obviously if you know me you know the answer to that...yes, a 2 year old kitty. I don't seem to understand the question. I would have never thought to ask her that. I believe that she was LDS but I can't be totally sure. The funny thing is whenever people here find out how long I have been married they always ask the same question. This has happened to me 3 times this week. This got me thinking about why they would ask and I really don't know why. I love going to school. I have a goal in mind for graduation. In the past 2 years I have seen 2 absolutely amazing girls graduate less than a month after giving birth to their first child. That is absolutely amazing to me. I also thought that my family that keeps up with my life may want to know the workings of Endrit and Rachel's brains when it comes to becoming a larger family than Mom, Dad and Dexter.
I didn't think that I would actually tell people this because when the time comes I don't want people wondering if I am knocked up yet, but at the same time I want people to be supportive and understanding while we are waiting to start our family.
As of right now my graduation date is set for May 2011. Endrit is tentatively going to graduate at that time but it could take another year after that. We talk about children almost every day. I didn't think that there was that much to talk about, but when a news story comes on or I see a cute book in the store it just comes up. Also it comes up a lot more with me becoming an aunt again and a few friends having their babies within a month of each other. Heaven bless those little, or not so little, families.
About a year ago Endrit and I got a feeling that my degree would come first then a baby. At least my mind was a little bit settled until I got my official graduation date. It seemed a bit far off, but who am I to question? I am on a message board that is big on dates so I wanted a tentative date of when we were going to stop preventing. I did tons of research. I mean a TON of research on everything because of my medical condition and what effect that could have on our having children. For me it won't really be an easy task trying to get through student teaching while growing a child. I knew that I was supposed to be pregnant or trying to get pregnant when I graduate, I just wanted to do the math and see what time would be best. About a month ago Endrit and I were talking about this subject and my 25th birthday came up. November 21, 2010 will be in the last month of my Fall semester before my student teaching. If we were to get pregnant within a month after that date, I would graduate at the very start of my 3rd trimester. It almost sounds perfect. There are complications to this, obviously, but as it is 2.5 years away a girl can dream of being as prepared as possible to add a child to the world. I have an understanding that it may not be easy to get pregnant, but I would rather start later and have problems than start earlier in thinking there may be problems and have a baby in the middle of my last semester. Endrit is happy about this date. I am happy with it. I get the most precious birthday present in the world. Also...I am horrible...Endrit and I have decided that we will not be finding out what the sex of our babies are going to be. If we cave, the earliest we would find out is 35 weeks. We have agreed on a lot of things that most would consider wierd, but what else is to be expected from us.
I don't know why I wanted to post this, but I know that at some points in my education that are hard, I will want to switch roles when the time isn't right and need more support than Endrit. So there it is for anyone who really cares. If all else fails, we will adopt. Just please if you happen to remeber this in 3 years, we will tell you when the time is right. Just like you found out much later that Endrit and I were engaged. When the time is right it is right. Yeah... That is all.