Taking it slow.

Endrit and I were talking on the way home from my parent's house and we were talking about how it was funny that my parents are starting to talk about Dexter as a grandchild...if only in jest. Real kids came up and Endrit said sorry that we have to wait so long and I asked him a question of if either of us are really sorry about it. The discussion that we had afterwards was worth the question. We have known that marrying eachother wasn't necessarily the easiest thing in the world because of the drastically different cultures that we grew up in. We have a slight language barrier (which no one seems to notice but it IS there). There are many of the key changes in life that our cultures couldn't be further apart in the differences. 99% of the little things we meet eye to eye but big things...not so much. We have had to work out these differences and ultimately say it isn't up to us. We will prepare mentally now for anything and life will happen when it is supposed to happen.

My answer and his answer to that question is that we are not sorry. We are glad that we are able to agree on the little things and know who we are married to. We are able to give up our will in major areas to the will of Heavenly Father where it is supposed to be. Faith in knowing that our day will come keeps both of us happy. My graduation will be here before I know it.

The best part about this is that it has pertained to all major life decisions.
There was a disagreement as to the date of the wedding that we sorted out not of our own will. There was slight disagreement in where to go for graduate school.
There is a disagreement on when to have children.
There is probably going to be disagreement in where we will be moving after we are both done with school. I favor the Arizona, New Mexico area where Endrit favors the Oregon, Washington area.

The best part about it is that we don't rely on only our opinions. We say that we will do what we feel is right no matter where it takes us.

If we were to get married and get pregnant 6 months in and me postpone school like I wanted to do when we were married 6 months, I wouldn't have the profound growth that I have encountered over the last 3 years. I know who I am married to and he knows me and we still like eachother. We have learned to put our complete faith in the Lord where it should be. Without the growth that has come from continuing my education and waiting to add more life changes I don't know where I would be.

I guess that the major thing that Endrit and I realised that night was that we have had to learn who eachother really is. We still don't fully understand the extent of our cultural differences and we are learning more about each other every day. If I had children and needed to care for them Endrit and I would have less time to learn about each other.

When people come from the same cultural background it, in my mind, can be easier to come eye to eye on major life events and they know that they will nurture more relationships at the same time and it is definately do-able.

I think that it took Endrit and I really talking about if we are really sad about waiting for a specific life change to realize our blessings that come with the dicisions that we have made together. I hope that people don't read this and I am condoning postponement of major life events, but the huge message is that of making a marriage a marriage between you, your spouse and the Lord. If there are 3 people within the marriage things will be as good as they can be.

To Do List

Today I had a couple of things that I needed to accomplish. I had to drive to 2500 S. State street for fingerprinting in order for me to apply for the teacher education program. I was watching the news and they were talking about early voting that people could do. I looked at the locations and it was being held at 2001 S. State street I thought why not. It means that I don't have to wait in the long lines in SLC for hours just to vote. I get to where I get my fingerprints and I was told I forgot some paperwork so I go and vote. I love voting...I don't necessarily think that the people on the ballot are all that great but it is my right and duty to vote and I take that to heart.

I went back to my apartment got my paperwork and got fingerprinted. I have always seen Endrit going in for fingerprinting but now it was my turn and it was a little bit weird. Only 2 fingers were rejected and had to get re-done. Productive is how I would describe this day.

I ROCKED!!

I had to be at the testing center this morning at 8:30. It wasn't too bad. Endrit gave me a blessing last night. I was told that I would do well on the exam and I know that helped me relax. You get 2 out of 3 of your scores at the end of the exam because the computer automatically grades you. I was doing the post test survey and I just wanted to see my scores. I was a little nervous because I didn't know how the test was going to be graded. All I knew is that I needed to get above a 173 in each area. I am happy with the 2 scores that I did get today.

184 in Reading

186 in Mathematics

That is a scientist for you, better at math than reading. I thought that it was going to be different than that, but I am happy.

What to do for Sinus Problems

I have been having sinus problems on and off for years. MRI, CT scan and all that junk. I went in for my sinus infection and my doctor told me to try a Neti Pot. It is nasal irrigation and cleaning. It has been interesting to start to use this. If you really want to know more about it, google it. It is kind of gross if you are not used to it. I guess that since you now know what I am doing you can see how desperate I am to ;get rid of some of my sinus problems.

And Then I Woke Up...

I am not amused. I don't like walking to Church in the snow.

NOOOO!!!

I have nothing else to say...

LONG Day

I got up a good 30 minutes before I usually do. That little time to sleep in is invaluble. I drove to Plymouth to go and get all of the snorkel gear from Rick and stayed there for a little while to chat with Rick and get a few little lessons of the things that I need to do until Thanksgiving to prep for the classes. Drove back in time to pick up Endrit for lunch and rent a movie then went home to eat the rest of the meatloaf I cooked for dinner last night. I love leftovers. I went to school less than 20 minutes after getting home and I just finished my lab. It has been a long day. I am tired, but I will be going to the pool for at least an hour to do my homework from Rick. I am sure that goggle face is worth the outcome of getting this practice in.

It is FREEZING!!! I need to get my coat out, not just a sweater. I can't believe how cold it is already. I want it to remain summer. I don't like to be all bundled and not able to go to outdoor swimming pools. My feet freeze, sweat when I am in a building and then ice over when I have to leave a building. I really hope that I don't get sick too much this winter. I need to go and get my flu shot but they are so darn expensive. Smith's said it was $25. I am glad that Endrit refuses to get it. I don't blame him. I need to call the health center and get their cost. I hope that it is a little lower.

That is about it. I am tired, excited and freezing. Lots of fun.