It wasn't long after getting into the car that I decided that we needed to talk about what my Dad asked. We were barely pulling out of my parents driveway when I asked. He told me that I already knew what my Dad had talked to him about. I was getting frustrated at Endrit by this time because I just wanted to know if I was engaged or not. It was definitely a different conversation because up until that point we had only ever hinted that marriage may be in our future.
I am going to back track for a funny story that I just remembered that fits into why I say marriage was only hinted at. Endrit was in a Soccer league in Pocatello that had some long drives to Idaho falls at least 2 times a month. We always drove together so that I could go and watch his games. We were running out of things to talk about so I started talking to him about what my dream wedding would look like. He would talk the same. It had happened on several occasions that we would agree on color choices and minor wedding details but we would always say "When I get married". One day I was just wanting him to propose and I slipped and said "When we get married". Endrit told me later that was the first time that it ever went through his mind that he would marry me and that I was ready for marriage. This was in the early parts of December 2004. Probably just a few days before we went to my parent's house.
Endrit told me that my Dad had told him that I was ready to be engaged. He asked if this was true and I told him yes. I asked him if he was ready to be engaged and he said that he hadn't had much time to think about it, but yes he was. We agreed at that point we would not be telling anyone but my parents fr the time being because his parents didn't know that he was even dating me. I agreed to waiting to announce to everyone including siblings. At that point I had a brother in Afghanistan, and no ring whatsoever so it was a whatever for me. Plus we didn't know when we were going to get married. We were planning for May but that is all that we knew at the time.
I told my Mom that I didn't want people to know and she agreed that she wouldn't tell any of the siblings. She asked when the wedding would take place and I told her May. It was kind of a sticky situation for Endrit and I because my parents had a mission call and his parents didn't know that I existed. I knew that I wanted to get married, but marriage itself was scaring me to death. Endrit was the same way. We were glad that both of us wanted to have a longer engagement. If you can call 6 months a long engagement. What I was excited about was; planning the wedding.
I took Endrit to my jeweler and picked out a ring that Endrit and I both loved. It had to be made so I just went back to my apartment and I called around for dress shops to pick out my dress. In late December my Mom took a trip to Pocatello to help me with my dress shopping. She was going to buy it for me. I was a weird bride and took Endrit for the 3rd opinion tie breaker. He had fun because his Mom is a European designer and he grew up around women and dresses. It was funny because he ended up being the vote that broke a tie, in my favor :). It was a little bit weird because His parents still only knew that he was interested in someone at the time I had the dress. They were still on their 4 week program of engagement announcement.
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